‘But whhhhyyyyyyyyyy?’. In the early days, weeks, and even months after my surprise divorce, this was a sentence that would frequently pass my lips between tightly gritted teeth as deep, gut wrenching sobs escaped my body. Why had my husband abandoned me? Why wasn’t I good enough? Why did he think it was ok to […] Read more…
Hellloooooo new year! And hello to all those ideas of change running around in our heads telling us that this WILL be the year they’ll happen… a new start, a fresh beginning, to feel better, happier, bolder, braver. If you’re separated or divorced, one of those ideas might be forgiveness; that essential yet elusive process […] Read more…
One of our readers commented on ‘Part 2’ of our article from our ‘Solo Mum 20 Years After Betrayal and Divorce’, asking questions that we hadn’t covered in the first two articles, and so we asked our solo mum if she’d be willing to answer, and she said yes… Dear Solo Mum Can I ask, […] Read more…
We become single mums in a variety of ways. Divorce is the most common. We may choose the divorce, or it may be handed to us; however it happens we end up flying solo, and although every divorce is different, there are common parts of the process that you’ll probably relate to. By being aware […] Read more…
My story starts back in 1997 when my daughters were just six and four. At the time, I thought I had a normal life and a normal marriage. I had two gorgeous children, a flourishing social life; all the things I was supposed to have. My husband was a few years older than me, he […] Read more…
Anger is a necessary emotion. In fact, it can be a really healthy emotion. It can tell us when our boundaries have been crossed, it can tell us when we think we’ve been treated unfairly and it can motivate us to take action to resolve the wrongs done to us, or if that’s not possible, […] Read more…
Ahhhh, the dreaded F word. Failure. About a year ago, I felt I was exactly all of the things that this word encompasses. Worthless. Discarded. Not good enough. Humiliated. Hopeless. Why? Well, I suddenly found myself a newly single mother, I was recovering from a c-section, I was the heaviest and most unattractive I’ve ever […] Read more…
Ho’oponopono. Go on, I dare you to say it out loud. Months after discovering it, I can still only pronounce it correctly on every other occasion. I usually manage to end up with too many ‘ponos’ or ‘nopos’ where my ‘ponos’ should be. The upside is that my son thinks it’s hilarious when I do […] Read more…
When my husband walked out on me only months after our first son was born, the shock combined with the new responsibility of being a mum filled my head like an over-stretched balloon about to pop. The world I’d been building for ten years was shattered in an instant. I felt like everything was underwater, […] Read more…